Life can never prepare you for your husband coming out to you as transgender. This is our story of love, loss and understanding as we navigate our family through her changes, and our changes.
Tuesday, January 22, 2008
Limits
for at least five minutes every day; wisdom consists
in not exceeding the limit.
Today I have completely failed in not exceeding my limit.
It is presently 4am in the morning (and if the fact that I
just wrote 4am followed by in the morning clues you in
to how tired I might just be) and I am still at work. It
really should not be a surprise I am still at work with my
new, wonderfully terrible schedule in this 24 hour office I
have the utmost pleasure of working in. What might
come to a surprise to some of you is that I have been here
in this mildly comfortable, seriously ugly, blue chair since
1pm today.. So, by the time I leave at 6am, I will have
been at work for 17 hours. No, my company does not
require that I slave away at work for a constant 17 hours,
it is actually one of the perks (which is what I call it when I
have am not working what we call a double) of my job that
I can work these long days with out extra pay, for extra
days off with pay later on.. basically shift trading around.
You might all be asking where really is the lack of wisdom
in my working now for time off later -
That folks is not my failure - it would be the fact that
at some point during the day I decided it would be a good
idea to keep my plans to head to the gym for my 6AM
workout, which I will keep as I am meeting people there.
Which brings me to another quote:
"The older I grow the more I distrust the familiar doctrine
that age brings wisdom." H. L. Mencken -
Monday, January 14, 2008
Man Bag, Man Purse, Murse???
So my boyfriend Adam has been talking about how we as
women have the advantage when it comes to the "purse" and
how he used to be jealous of the purse and the many different
colours and styles and how lately he feels as though he has too
many things to carry around. He has of late, gone for the more
slightly fitted style which has also made the carrying of certain
articles more difficult. So I have been in search of a nice
"Man bag". We have found a nice one in a local store for a lovely
price of 159.99 which is a beautiful leather over the shoulder bag
which is actually long enough for his tall "figure". Anyone have
ideas for a nice man bag where Adam can keep his "things"??
Thus far he has listed for the carrying around items...
...wallet
...cell phone
...pen
...pencil
...sticky note pad (um yeah he is a teacher.. not sure if that is a
valid excuse or if he just likes to make random lists of things to do)
...his new camera - to be ever ready for a great shot
...water bottle
...keys
...a magazine or book (for the just in case he has a moment
to read moment)
...ipod
...gum
...and one more reason he wants one.. So he does not have to carry
home his laptopish bag from school after work when he does not
really need it, so not to make his coworkers annoyed that he
finished all his "work" at work.
One second thought, with all those things, maybe he should look
into getting a messenger bag instead. Not as pretty but a lot
cheaper for me.


So there it is
Sunday, December 16, 2007
Malaysian HEAT
Kota Kinabalu Malaysia just this week. It was an adventurous
and interesting trip. Many things took place which started with
my brother and I enjoying first class flight seats to China..
We spent a night in Beijing, a night in Hong Kong where we
enjoyed walking around the Hong Kong island area, in the local
markets. We tried to get a picture taken with a little local lady
and she freaked out at us for trying to take her picture.
Final stop after a nice flight with DragonAir - Kota Kinabalu
where we met some nice heat, and a fabulous staff at the Hyatt
Regency. It was nice being treated so well, and it made me
realize, we as North Americans, have ZERO idea how to treat
customers even if they are not the "premiere" customer.
The golf course was beautiful, the weather some would consider
very beautiful, but extremely HOT. I however, was not missing
all the snow we were getting back home.
The caddy job was not so bad, though I could have rung out my
clothes after each round it was more than worth the trip.
The local food was interesting but tasty, and I enjoyed the
amounts of local fresh fruit, and fresh fruit drinks.
So after another night spent in Hong Kong (shopping the local
markets this time) a 14 hour flight (after a couple hour delay)
with 4 movies watched, a connection in Toronto and we finally
arrived in Saint John with a 56Celcius degree difference in
temperature. I did not bring back the same illness as my last
trip to China, but I did come back with a bad cold - a much better
alternative.
All in All - A great trip, and a wonderful opportunity to see another
new part of the amazingly large, yet small world.

Our Hotel room in Hong Kong - big eh? Actually a
four star hotel in Kowloon City..

The Golf Course Sutera Harbour in Kota Kinabalu

Our view from the Hotel in Kota Kinabalu

View from the hotel balcony

Another view from the balcony of the China Sea

Some random guy in Hong Kong

The high class restaurant Bud ate at in
Hong Kong - tasty though

Our new friend - Mr Ugly Crab

Our second choice of restaurants - look tasty?

I know - I need to put more photos of the trip up
Thursday, November 01, 2007
HAPPY HALLOWEEN
Friday, October 19, 2007
My first attempt
eventually end up on my wall in the frameless frames I picked
up at Ikea. I finally got my hands on a copy of Adobe Photoshop
and have been playing around with a few of the photos I am
intending to use. It is fun, though not as easy as I thought it would
be, especially as I am have zero training or practice using the
program.
Here is my first attempt and removing unwanted "things"
from a picture.

Friday, October 12, 2007
House Update, Me update
new place.
Since moving in I have -
- Painted a lot more hours than I thought I would..
- Got a new cat/kitten (stray)
- Made my first mortgage payment
- Purchased a new amazing bed
- Purchased a new fridge
- Purchased a new TV
- Purchased a new Table (still looking for chairs I love)
- Planted flowers for the first time in a LONG time
- Was scared to death by raccoons on my front steps
- Been on vacation
- Started major recycling
- Been to the Doctor
- Blood work to find out why I am so tired and cold all the time
- Major hair cut
- Been enjoying watching the leaves change colour
- neglected my emails
- Started working out again
- Put together a toy box for Jasmine (Adam's Daughter)
- Celebrated Thanksgiving day
I have been enjoying being on vacation for the past week and have
been able to get a lot of things accomplished.
Chance (the kitten) has been great company, though today he ran into
the house with a new friend in his mouth. We called him Chance
because the day I took possession of my home I was talking to my
friends about how I might get a cat and walking out of a store he was
sitting there crying playing in the parking lot. None of us could leave
him there, so we took him to Adams place for the week until I was
able to get some painting finished... Called animal rescue but no one
claimed him, so he is mine. He is a sweet cat and very affectionate..
Things are going well with the new house. My neighbours have been
very friendly, stopping by to say hello while I was digging out the
ground box which was filled with weeds (took me almost three hours).
My immediate neighbour brought me over a welcome gift and some
fresh hand grown catnip for Chance.
Its been amazing weather - though today it is pouring rain
All in all, I have been working hard, spending more money than I
should be, and really just enjoying life.
Sunday, September 09, 2007
House Buying
That statement might not have made a lot of sense to me not all
that long ago. However, as I have discovered, when I tell people
those words, they all get really excited for me and ask if there is
anything they can help with.
So Yes, on the 21st of this month I will officially be the proud owner
of my first "place". I will no longer be paying someone else's mortgage
and will now be so broke I cannot come and visit any of you
anymore :) As my sister said about her place before, I have the
"ugly" spot in the good part of town. It really is not ugly, but with
zero curb appeal I am going to have to take care of. 28 years old and
no one has thought about planting any trees, or flowers, but thankfully
they did plant grass.
Its a three bedroom 2 storey "town house" but not really a town house
they call them semi-detached now. I have a decent back yard
(for being right in the city and a short walk to work).. enough that
I can plant a nice garden and sit on the deck and wish that the place
came with a pool in the summer. I will now be responsible for
shoveling out my own driveway and do not live close enough to mom
and dad (like 45 minutes) for them to shovel me out.
I plan to do some cutifying (and yes it is my made up word) to the
inside and it only holds two colours - white and this odd blue. I am
presently deciding between an orange or a yellow kitchen. I have
things which would go really nice with both. I would not put all the
walls yellow or orange, but would have a great time adding lots of
colour to the house.
I am excited to get one of the bedrooms set up as a designated
massage therapy room and just as excited to be able to start using
my skills more often. Sadly, but I think of the things I am the most
excited about is having a closet in my bedroom. Something that I
do not have right now as this beautiful apartment is in a very
old house..
So here is where I need some help...
Trying to decide on colours for the bathroom, spare bedroom and also
for my own bedroom. Basically the entire inside of the house needs to
be painted. So any ideas, send them my ways.. Any tips, send them
my way.. All in all it has been an interesting, slightly scary, and very
exciting process.
I will get some pictures soon.. and show the progress of the cutifying
the inside of the house...
Monday, August 13, 2007
Another Blog
I decided to start another little blog.
I shall see how it goes, and how much effort I put into it
seeing how I have been slacking lately. I thought about putting
it directly on here, but the title was fun.
So its called "Things you didn't know you didn't know"..
So just click on the link in the title of this message and it
will take you to the page..
I am going to try to make them about a wide range of
things...
Friday, June 29, 2007
Home From Hell

Wolfgang dropping me off at the airport on my way home.
Perhaps that photos should be at the end!
The view from the condo living room..
A random photo of me getting ready to go swim with the
stingrays!
This photo cracks me up!
Stingray time.. this was an amazing time after I got used to them
rubbing up against my legs like cats before they got the food
from my hands. Look they are even nice enough to let me hold
them!
I love turtles.. even if down there they eat them!

All in all a great fun, relaxed, much needed vacation!
Thank you Wolfy, Jenn and Greg
Monday, June 11, 2007
Kites flying High...Spirits Soaring!
The first couple crashes were a huge indication I had never flown
Saturday, June 02, 2007
Good friends, good books and a sleepy conscience: this is the ideal life.
that I am no longer getting married. It has been
hard in a lot of ways with a million different emotions
going through me on almost any given day.
I'm much happier now in
many ways, but there are certain emotions of guilt
and sadness... just to name a few.
HOWEVER, I have been so very lucky to make a new
set of friends here in my own city of Saint John.
I was out at a Jimmy Swift Band concert and was
introduced to Tidby by my friend Bruce.. the rest they
say is history. It is a wonderful blessing to find people
with whom I just connect and so very much enjoy.
So since then it has been a great time trespassing on
Patridge Island exploring the old tunnels and such
from the war days (using a light sabre as a form of
flashlight - see photos).. a couple of bonfires with a great
group of people. Plenty of great and deep hammock
chats... great meals cooked for me... and more laughs
than I think I've ever had in such a short span.
Tomorrow I plan to fly a kite with Tidby....
So all of this has got me thinking about how important
friends are in our lives. Outside of family they are
hopefully those who we create so many wonderful
memories with. I have been lucky to have some really
great friends thus far along my life. They may not be
huge in numbers, but they have been deeply important
in my life. I welcome these new friends who from the
very first moment never judged me, made me laugh and
welcomed me with open arms into their circle of friends.
"Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not
born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a
new world is born." - Anais Nin
the right.. I'm in there in the back and so is Wilson.
Can you say GEEKS R US??
Sunday, February 18, 2007
I DOUBT anyone would disagree
I find that in learning to love another person unconditionally
has taught me a great deal about myself. To be honest, not
all that I am learning are things I wish I was learning, but are
lessons which will be so valuable to me as I approach marriage.
I've never been loved so unconditionally by a man who allows
me to be me... It is amazing and scary at the same time.
Through this experience thus far I have come to better
appreciate Rilke's words.
For one human being to love another; that is perhaps the most
difficult of all our tasks, the ultimate, the last test and proof, the
work for which all other work is but preparation.
Rainer Rilke
Once the realization is accepted that even between the closest
human beings infinite distances continue, a wonderful living side
by side can grow, if they succeed in loving the distance between
them which makes it possible for each to see the other whole
against the sky.
Rainer Rilke
Friday, January 12, 2007
"NAME" that Song
right now and we have been discussing names. I mentioned
I somehow love the name Forrest and they all started laughing
somewhat uncontrollable. I never found the name all that
amusing, however I quickly realized that by having the name
Jenny, I would set my child up for a lot of teasing. Though I
argued that Forrest Gump references would be long gone by
the time my child was old enough to be teased, they still said
he would get the teasing regardless. (Then again I figured that
the references when I introduced myself as Jenny would have
stopped long ago, perhaps a reason I started going by JennyMay)
So it got me thinking to how common certain names are in
the movies and music. What did I do, I went to ITUNES
and put the name Jenny in a search for songs, and boy was I
surprised how many songs have the name Jenny used in it.
I guess having a common name would bring about such and
occurrence. So here is the question... what is your name and
what is your favourite movie or song which has your name in it??
Let me start... Well obviously J-Lo's Jenny from the block..
ok so maybe not - cheesiest is Barry Manilow
(Jenny) You're my only Girl..
Wednesday, December 13, 2006
Love and Marriage go together like Pistachio and Cherry
practice, it can work to the title song from Love and
Marriage.Lately I have been thinking about how much I truly
enjoy ice cream, and started thinking about how much
a persons favourite ice cream may possibly reflect
their relationship styles or history. With that said,
I thought I would test the theory and see what a few
of my friends think.. this is just a test.. and I just thought
it was a little funny interesting..So what is your favourite
ice cream type.. and what do
you think it might say about you???
Below is what some of my friends have said thus far

Niels from Denmark- Rocky Road (which he and his
friends say is a true reflection of his
relationship history)
Steve (first met when he was in Spain but now
in Utah) Loves just about all different types of ice cream
everything but coffee flavoured types... hummm
I have first hand knowledge he just loves women :)
Patrick(Nova Scotia Canada) - (I need to be careful here)
His response ..Do not really have one...
no comment from me!!!
Brendo (first met in Boston now in Utah)
- Half baked.. once again no comment I wish
not to assume ALL of his relationships have been with
"half baked" type ladies..
Ray (Toronto, Canada) -
Like it but not really a big deal (did I mention he was
single ladies...??? I wonder if you could be the big deal?)
Nicole (Portland Oregon)
- World Class Chocolate by Baskin Robins
-Let me tell you she is world class all the way
Kris Oddy - Ottawa Canada, and I quote
"I like it but not really one more before another.
I tend to think of it as a garnish"
SO, with that said (and I mean this all in fun)
ME, Jenny - New Brunswick, Canada
vanilla bean
Simple but smooth and with a little bite!!!
Whats your ice cream style??
Monday, December 11, 2006
Turning 29 was not so scary
has been no exception. I have traveled to new parts
of the world... made new friends, seen old friends..
laughed.. cried..played.. and so many more things.
So last week the 4th of December was my 29th
birthday. It came and went without a lot of fanfare.
The girls had planned a little get together however,
the snow and freezing rain kept me inside all night.
I spent hours chatting with friends online, family on
the phone and giggling all the while. I thought it might
be a bit tougher turning 29.. but really it was not a
whole heck of a lot different than 28. Next year
perhaps will be a heck of a lot harder.. the big 30.
Sorry I don't have any fun photos of the birthday
to show.. but I thought I'd say thank you to everyone
who called to wish me happy birthday.
Love you guys..
Sunday, November 26, 2006
LA and back in 24 Hours

Wednesday, November 08, 2006
Halloween in Utah
So Halloween has come and gone.
Check out my cute nephews and nieces..
Not to add my very "great sport" brothers
in law... The final picture would be myself with my

Sunday, October 15, 2006
Its Just me here asking you...

"I have the gift of neither the spoken nor the written word, especially if I have to say something about myself or my work. Whoever wants to know something about me -as an artist, the only notable thing- ought to look carefully at my pictures and try and see in them what I am and what I want to do." Gustav Klimt
So...with his quote... what do you think he is trying to
show us in this painting?
Its called Stoclet Frieze: Expectation
Monday, October 09, 2006
Book Page time (sort of sappy one)
Sitting in her bed, she threw the question around her mind, over and
over again. Outside, the autumn sun was setting upon the beauty of
the vibrant colours which it accompanies. All was quiet except for the
sound of the waves racing onto the shore outside her window. She
leaned back into her pillow, trying to focus on the book in front of
her, but her mind drifted off to the past. She thought again about the
path that had brought them together. Sometimes it makes her
laugh, other times it makes her smile, and only on occasion does it
make her sad. Who was she then? And who was she now?
On the surface to everyone around her, those questions sound easy.
Her name was Genevieve; she was 28 years old, the daughter of an
English Father, and a French Mother; and she worked behind the
screen of a computer for a living. Those were the surface answers
she offered when asked. Though they were true, she sometimes
wondered why people did not want to know more, or if she should
add something more. Should she mention for instance, that she was
a massage therapist, that a child falling asleep in her arms made her
cry, that she has traveled all over the world, that she had a passion
for dancing and has a weakness for ice-cream and men with really
nice shoulders?
She closed her eyes, put down her book, and slid further into the
comforts of her bed. Though she didn’t dwell on events from long
ago, she didn’t avoid thinking about them, either. She was no more
able to erase the previous chapters of her life as she was able to
change who her parents were (not that she would want to).
While there were times when she wished she could turn back the
clock and erase a lot of memories and sadness, she had the distinct
feeling that if she did so, the joy would be largely diminished as well.
And that was something she would never contemplate.
Could you please HOLD







